There is a long holiday coming in Oman in celebration of the Eid Al Adha or “Feast of Sacrifice”. I have been in Oman for over four years but not until lately that I understand the essence of the festivity when I happen to ask one of my Omani officemate.
According to him, this annual tradition commemorates the willingness and obedience of Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham) to Allah’s command to offer his son Ishamael as a sacrifice. When he was about to kill his son, Allah revealed that his “sacrifice” had already been fulfilled. It is an act of showing Ibrahim’s strong faith, great love, and being an obedient servant to Allah. Muslims have this feast at the end of Hajj or the annual pilgrimage to Mecca and normally it will last for three days. Believers have to slaughter animals like sheep, camel, or goat and share the meat to their families particularly those are poor and very unfortunate.
I was able to comprehend this practice to my own faith of Christianity. My family is a believer of God, pardon to those who are not, as the ultimate creator of everything and I was raised in that manner as well. My parents encourage and observe Catholic traditions such as the Holy Weeks, Christmases, Morning Masses, and Feasts of Saints. These are the many events that help strengthen the bond and relationship among us. Above all, it helps to grow my faith to God and live my life according to His commandments.
This is just the same with the mutual relationship that is equally important for both parents and children. My mom used to tell me that an obedient child is a pride and fondness of any parent(s). Children who are respectful and obedient to follow the rules set bring so much joy and bliss to the whole family. In return, parents shower loads of love and care to their children in pursuit of nothing but all the goodness and happiness.
However, fulfilling the role of motherhood at first seemed a little daunting to me alongside all other responsibilities on my plate. There are times that my 8 year old boy would act out long enough to push his own way. If I can’t control myself, I often resolve to anger and frustration. It takes a lot of “sacrifice” to raise disciplined and respectful kids. Only with continuous self-reflection and sourcing advices from other moms, I was able to comprehend the proper parenting styles as I see fit to my own children.
Essentially, it takes large amount of patience and consistent attitude to come at close with the kind of kids I desire. Any unacceptable behavior is corrected right off the bat and I did not tolerate even in small cases. When my son acts out, I offer negative consequences like sending him to timeouts or taking away privileges like computer games, and when we are both calm, I discuss with him that his behavior is improper. Now, he understands that adults should be treated appropriately and talks to him in a very nice manner. My child can freely express how he feels and from that I also know his concerns. I also praise him with a genuine attitude by telling exactly what I am proud of. This has now become our practice and from that I gain confidence for myself that I am doing a good job not just a mother but a friend as well. And believe me many wonderful attitudes will follow such as kindness, honesty, and sincerity. My kids will be more likely to do the same thing to their own children. And I want them to continuously live in a Christian way.
Well, let me end with my reflection here and go to the exciting part. Since it is a long break, we are going to relish the 9 days leave from the 24th to 30th of October. So again this is a special time for us to strengthen the family bond and share fun together. For our upcoming getaway, I am giddily waiting! I will come back later with posts of our escapade that we love to do in Oman.
Happy Eid Al Adha everyone!