I had read a book that opened my eyes to the reality of life and embrace all of its aspects. It was about finding a happy medium between denial and being overwhelmed. The author’s messages were enlightening, inspiring, and above all, outstanding. I believe his insights on how we can “improve our life” is small enough to be a blessing but huge enough to effect ourselves and those around us.
Randy Pausch was not only a devoted professor of computer science but was a phenomenal lecturer and writer.
In 2007, he wrote the book ‘The last lecture’ that claimed to be one of the bestsellers at that time. His book was inspired after he delivered his last lecture called “Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams” on September 18, 2007 in front of 400 people at Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. His sought-after talk was modeled after an ongoing series of lectures where professors are ask to consider their demise and to ruminate on what matters most to them, and mulled a hypothetical questions, i.e. “what wisdom would you try to impart to the world if you knew it was your last chance?”, “if we had to vanish tomorrow, what would we want as our legacy?” But for Randy, his lecture was not about dying. It was about the importance of surpassing challenges and be grateful. It was about enabling your dreams and followed your heart. It was about seizing each moment and never regret. It was about truly living. It was a summation of everything Randy had come to believe that “time is all you have…and you may find one day that you have less than you think”.
As he had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a year earlier, Randy’s book fleshed out everything he wanted his children to know such as the stories of his childhood, the lessons he wanted his children to learn, the things he wanted his children to know about him, and to prepare his children and family for his coming death. His lectures had combined humor, inspiration, and intelligence for finding happiness and living life to its fullest because one never knows when it might be taken. He also encouraged his readers to think more deeply about how they can apply his messages in their own lives. It is a kind of legacy to leave behind.
As amazing as he was, he wrote a letter to his wife Jai and children Dylan, Logan , and Chloe enlisted about a beautiful “Guide to a Better Life”. And it is not only for his family to follow but for the next generations to come.
POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE
1. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don’t have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don’t over do; keep your limits
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice the guide above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” —Randy Pausch